every two years or so I get an itch for a perm! (poodle like hairstyle)
yeahhh.... I know, you're probably thinking, people still do that?? And the short answer, is yes, people still do.
Anyhoo, as Josephina was twirling up my locks, I found out she was about to take her U.S citizenship test. Per her words, she was by nature an "anxious" person, so we were joking around about needing Valium to relax, and other silly things.
until she said, in her thick Italian accent, 🍕
"look-a, I know-a who I am-a".
Growing up in Greece I am familiar with this sort of fatalistic approach to one's destiny- "people don't change" used to be my most dreaded saying that was thrown around a l o t.
The thing is, people do change.
In 2010, I started an email in my Drafts folder the day I realized how much I was changing. It's subject is "all the ways I've changed", followed a by a list of... well, all the ways I've witness myself change over the years.
For example, I used to try to persuade people of things. Not anymore. I used to believe that homosexual people needed fixing. Not anymore. I used to be incredibly shy. Not anymore. I used to think good things are followed by bad things. Not anymore.
And the list goes on.
We often find solace in our comfort zones; the way our family or culture "does things"; or who we are expected to be. And there is nothing wrong with that...
but there is definitely more; if you want more.
I felt bad that Josephina felt shackled to her own diagnosis, but it was definitely not my role to tell her that she can be more than who she "thinks she is".
Allow yourself to change.
Allow others to change.
Life feels juicier when you know how to hit refresh.
ps: thank you for checking in with me about my book. The back cover was approved and we are finally.... cooking with grease !!!!!